everything happens for a reason.

in a world where cities are vast and full of strangers, our only refuge is in the people we know. those people in our lives we share our ideals, our values, our sense of humor. how wonderful to be able to count in that familiarity and knowing that we’re not alone.

have you ever wondered what it would be like to wake up in to a fantasy? sometimes we spend our lives turning our fantasy into reality. and who’s to say we’re wrong for wanting our lives to be a dream that never ends. no dream can last forever. eventually you have to wake up.

they say relationships are everything, they’re the glue that binds us together. bringing joy and pain in equal measure. and it can be hard to navigate the differences.

the future.. its a big question mark. stop allowing your future to dictate your present.
we all know were going to die, but the date, the exact moment, its a mystery.. its a secret.. and for a good reason. knowing.. it changes things. they way you act, and  the choices you make. you need to live fully in the present.

they say that without risk, there is no reward. perhaps it goes further than that. without risk there is no exploration, no discovery, no delay, so dont waste time. take a risk, see what comes.

its not supposed to be endlessly easy. any and every relationship challenge us in ways we dont want to be challenged. it forces us to see things we dont want to see, about them, and about ourselves.

with great power comes great responsibility. why? because power is an illusion. the desire to yield that.. is weakness. an exercise in ego. the fact is, that all you really hold when you have power, is all the rope you need to hang yourself.

life works in funny ways. just when you got things figured out. just when things are going according to plan, thats when something happens. something small, something big. something that makes us realize we arent in control and we never were. something that lands on our feet and leaves us speechless. unsure of where to turn or what to do. something that blindsides us, leaving us gasping for air. no thought in our heads except how could this be happening, and what do we do now?

its not the mistakes that define us, its how we deal w them. nothing in life really turns out the way that you think it will. nothing ever does. the more we learn, the less we know. keeps us growing and changing which in the end, is the whole point. the gift that lies waiting for us is growth. is change. is a possibility that something good comes from pain. and when the graces hits, when our world is turned upside down, when we are afraid, will we have the strength, the wisdom to embrace the gift thats there? and welcome it w open arms?

we, in all of us, are original, unique, and one of a
kind. and yet we spend our lives twisting ourselves into knots making
ourselves smaller or larger to fit in. at school, at work, at home. we
adapt, change, and the truth is, thats not always a bad thing, or is it?

the answer is.. there is no right answer. theres no absolute. its a
question of finding the balance. what doesnt bend, breaks. you need to
bend to survive the world. then burstly you bend to far, so how do you
know how far to bend? thats the million dollar question.. the trick is to
know when to bend and when not to.

insecurity. its in all of us. that voice inside that tells us we cant do something, that we’re not good enough, that we shouldnt even try. and when we listen to the voice, we hold ourselves back and we dont even realize. all because we’re scared. to take a chance. to face our fears. to see what we’re really capable of.

because sometimes you can’t just “smile and pretend everything is okay.” Sometimes the shit seeps through and everyone can see it. You can’t lie anymore, because your expression gives it all away. And when you say, “I’m okay,” you’re not fooling anyone but yourself. And in that moment, you just wanna close your eyes and disappear from the scene and go to that far away place in the back of your mind. No one can follow you because you shut them out. You just want everything to STOP so you can take a breath, but time doesn’t stop and you’re suffocating in this shit.. It feels like your drowning. and you’re just scratching to rise above it and get out of it, but you can’t. and over time, it just gets worse until finally you just break…

i know what it means to have to start over.

ive had to say goodbye more times than i would have liked. but everyone can say that. and no matter how many times we do it, even when its for the greater good, it still stings. and tho we’ll never forget what we’ve given up or lost, we owe it to ourselves to keep moving forward. what we cant do is live our lives always afraid of the next goodbye. because chances are, they’re not going to stop. the trick is to know a goodbye.. it can be a good thing, when its a chance to start again.

its not about making the right decisions. its about dealing with the decisions you’ve already made. its never easy but you’re the only one that really knows yourself.